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Sure, if you live with your partner and you have a healthy sex life, we are certain you are making the most out of your prolonged in door hours. But what about new couples that live apart?

Perhaps you just started seeing someone new? Or maybe, you are single and have just found the perfect partner on your favorite dating app? If the answer to any of these questions is yes, then we have the perfect solution for you.

Phone sex can be a great way to maintain a healthy amount of sexual intimacy from afar. With social distancing currently a big factor in our lives, phone sex is perhaps now more relevant then ever before.

Often the trickiest part of phone sex is how to initiate it. First and foremost, it is important to have a discussion with your significant other if you are both planning your first phone sex experience. There is nothing worse than a friendly phone chat suddenly switching to the subject of sex with little to no warning.

To begin with, make sure you and your partner are on the same page. If you are a newcomer to phone sex, a little bit of advanced warning can be the perfect way to settle any nerves and allow you time to prepare some juicy soundbites.

Once you and your partner have a agreed a time, you now need to decide on a place. As a phone sex newcomer, this is almost certain to be your bedroom. Comfort is an absolute must where phone sex is concerned.

The bed is a common place to have sex and so you should feel right at home here. If you are feeling brave, then by all means set yourself up in a less conventional location. Just remember, as with anything new, it is always preferable to walk before you run.

One of the major issues many people have with phone sex is not knowing where to begin or what to say. Just remember the old adage, ‘fools rush in where others fear to tread’. If you are feeling nervous or full of trepidation, don’t jump in all guns blazing with explicit comments, take a more relaxed approach.

As with regular sex, where phone sex is concerned foreplay is extremely important. Granted, you can’t slowly massage your partner to warm them up over the phone, but what you can do is ease them into phone sex with some more subtle, starter comments.

The cliché starter question would be “what are you wearing?”. It may be a little cheesy and overused, but it is the perfect way to get your partner thinking about both their body and, in turn, yours.

If your partner replies that they are wearing nothing, then you know they are feeling relaxed and ready to progress onto something a little more intimate. If they answer, “I’m in my pyjamas”, why not try upping the ante by asking them to remove their PJ top?

Once you’ve used an opener, you can move on to telling your partner what you would like to do to them.

Again, the same rule applies, don’t go too fast too soon. Why not begin by reciting your usual physical warm up routine in word form. Begin with romance, tell them how you would love to give them a sensuous massage and end by kissing them all over.

Once you’ve you initiated the discussion using a helpful primer question, and then subsequently moved on to describing how you would warm your partner up, it might be time to dive into the more intimate areas.

As you would in person, start with your hands. Describe how you would softly caress them downstairs and how you would slowly, yet passionately pick up the pace. Phone sex phrases to say to him that are certain to get him going could focus on the oral sex you would love to give to him. Discuss the techniques you would use and how you would stare into his eyes as you do it.

For her, keep it passionate and slow paced. Once you know she is masturbating on the other end of the phone, you can move on to fantasies involving penetrative sex.

As with all things sex-related, the ultimate goal is pleasure – and this usually translates as having a great orgasm. Phone sex is no different. You may feel a little silly at first using some of the cliché soundbites however, if done correctly, you and your partner may soon find yourselves in a state of blissful arousal.